I get hassled a lot for quotes on hidden fantasies from the workshop. The dialogue below left me quite speechless…
a: There are different ways of sexing up a long monogamous relationship, for example role-playing in a rape scene.
b: How about a trip to the Maldives? It’s about the environment, that’s why people go on honeymoon.
a: Seriously? Girls really fall for this stuff?
a: I’d love to see myself as Cleopatra in a sexual role. In the moment of sexual arousal, you feel like the whole world is within your grip. It’s so supremely powerful!
b: “I want to be 武则天 – she had ultimate power”
a: No, it’d be distracting. The last thing I want to be thinking about during sex is, “oh, the South is revolting again…”
NB-for those of you that can’t be bothered to read 武则天’s bio,she was the first empress dowager in China. We’re talking about the woman known for having survived two emperors before having killed a daughter and a son, as well has having sacked two other sons from the throne before being overthrown after repeated revolts.
c: Sometimes I think about going into a bar and just grabbing someone for a one night stand. The thing that really stops me is a worry that after falling asleep I might wake up without my kidneys.
NB-There’re so many rumours surrounding organ theft in the media that it has become the adult Grimm’s story 2.0. In some way a sexual cautionary tale.
d: I don’t really have any fantasies during sex at all. I think for guys it’s really hard to multitask. If anything I’d be too busy thinking “hold on just a bit longer”!
The quotes from workshop are just as surprising for the other participants. I am grateful for their generosity, humour and adaptive skills. I’m delighted by how contextual they are and how rational our dreamers in critiquing and selecting their fantasies. I’ve been assured that these exchanges have been truly enlightening for all parties involved.